Sexiness
Commenter FoolishOwl in this thread at Pandagon prompts me to think about what I personally find sexy.
It’s all about being mutually desired.It’s about having someone who knows me, understands who I am, and wants me all the more for it. It’s someone who I can share a knowing glance with.
I’m not big on sex with strangers. Some enjoy it. What makes me different from them? What makes me require intellectual and emotional intimacy with someone before I can find them captivating?
It’s, I think, that they feel intimacy more easily. They can take a look at someone, exchange a few words, and feel like they know the person. Sometime’s it’s based on stereotypical assumptions instead of real knowledge. Sometimes it’s because the person has enough real knowledge of the other to trust them. I just don’t trust as soon.
And, thanks to Foolish Owl, I think I realize it’s because I can’t share a knowing glance, a private moment, with someone who I have less than exhaustive intimacy with, emotionally. I won’t know what to expect.
